A lesson Learned the hard way

I was not going to blog about this but someday I want to look back on this day and reflect the lesson I have learned.

This weekend was going to be a hard weekend. I could pretend it was not going to happen but it was inevitable. My love was going to Denver to hang at a Nuggets game with his compadres. I was reluctant to let him go but he needs some free time as a man and I need some personal mom time. Plus the seats were incredible and at a good price.

My hubby left the house at 300 to meet his friends at a designated meeting spot. I really did not care at all. I walked to Target and bought the kids some shoes and a juicer plus some snacks. I then came home and picked up the remote. I tuned into the nuggets game and dvred it so we could dvd it later.

The game ended around 945. I was stoked my husband would most likely be home by midnight. I took a shower and got all gussied up. I walked in the front room to blog and checked my email. It was there....the dreaded email. "Baby the guys I came with want to hang out a little longer...a couple of hours? I will keep you updated."

I became upset because he promised he was leaving straight after the game. I know it was out of his control but I knew in my heart of hearts this would happen. I emailed him back sobbing how unfair it was for me to be stuck with the kids until whatever hour. I told him to answer the email and tell me how long.

After many hours worrying and many lost tears my husband finally came home at 4 am. I was livid and gave him the silent treatment. We talked for almost an hour and came to a couple of conclusions.



1. It was his fault for not driving himself.

2. I was justified being upset

3. I was not justified for blaming him

4. He was truly sorry.



We are learning from this experience. When he goes out again he will not rely on anyone for
his ride home in the future. I also will be patient and remember he is not intentionally hurting me. I also realized I need to take time for myself or I am going to go mad. Life is too short to always be on the defense. My husband is loyal and after this post I am going to pretend this day never happened. He wants it that way and I concur. We will continue to thrive in our marriage and learn from our little mistakes. We are human and we will make sure we are more considerate of each other.