Wednesday, September 24, 2008

What the heck is going on with me?

My son is not behaving any better and all Rogelio does is bitch about it. I am the one doing all the work with finding a car and Rogelio just drives there. Then bitches. For example, today I found a 96 saturn at a dealership for 1800 not to bad I guess and we drove over. He saw salesmen and hit the gas. He thinks I set him up for meeting them, Um no I do not want car payments at all why would I do that? Then we got into an argument because I do not want this honda. I am sorry I am not letting him make payments on a car that I am not sold on. 2 doors is not pratical in this situation at all. I feel like I am forcing him to buy a new car. Right now we drive a 1987 Suburau Wagon and I think my kids deserve more safety. We need airbags at least and shoulder seatbelts in the back. Why can he not understand this?

These kids do not want to sleep at all. They fall asleep around 11. Then I am just so burned out right now. I am frusturated with no straight answers. He wants to go to Mexico. I want to go to Ohio. He wants a new car. I want a nicer used car. I want to know what time he comes home so I can schedule appointments to look at cars. He wants to work until whatever time and deal with it on the weekends. We are having troubles right now and I guess I am just so frusturated.

My kids are naughty. They think the world revolves around them. My son does not even call me mom. Never has. He calls me Sissy.

I am trying to change my eating habits and are getting accused of an affair or wanting to leave him. My dogs keep peeing in their kennels and I feel like I am losing it. I am tired of taking the brunt. Anyone need a nanny with two kids? I am cheap. I promise just give me some refuge from all of it.

6 Comments / Comentarios:

cul-ture-queen said...

I know I haven't been in your situation, but I have been trying to not sweat the small stuff. You can't make someone do something they don't want to do. You are right about the car, but then maybe he just wants to do it his way. You could always leave it up to him(easier said than done), but then you would no longer have to worry about it.

As for bedtime, I have a bedtime book I read to Laila at about 8 and she will turn over and go to sleep, before I would turn off all the lights and t.v. and she wouldn't have a choice but to go to bed.

Hope everything gets better.


Adrians Mama said...

Ohhh honey! Things will get better!!! I almost cried for you just reading this post!!!!! It was good to talk to you today! Call me ANYTIME!!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

Well, hummmmm, I have 3 boys and I must say that for me (and I am saying for ME) I could never read them a story because they wanted to ask questions and have it read more then once. I tell them it's bed time and make them go, if they dont stay or throw a fir I give them a smack on the butt. I know that people are against it and people say violence breads violence but I got it when I was a kid when I really deserved it and I do the same for mine. They get to the point where they know that if you act this was you will get whipped so they dont do it anymore. We have a firm way of doing it, in private for each child, they have to think about what they did, then they get their whipping and can come out of their room when they are done having an attitude. I tell you for my very stubborn 7 year old it only takes once before he doesnt do things again. If you stand firm with them regardless of whipping or not they will know you are serious, and be consistent. I am not a consistent person so that is hard for me but know that I am trying to be they know it wont fly. Dont let them get away with anything because if you let it go once they think it is ok. Again, this is what I do and it works but everyone does something different.

Heather said...

oh girl i feel you. I got 3 kids right now and can barely keep my eyes open. Sometimes when it rains is pours but as one of my fav songs says, "It cant rain all the time".

Lisa (LGMB) said...

I second Heather's "when it rains it pours" but I have to share something silly that really made a lot of sense to me ... and I'm not THAT religious either.

Once I was watching famous tele-evangilist Creflo Dollar. At least he's famous around here and he was talking about people sitting around on the couch complaining about being broke or not having an education, etc. (stuff we're all guilty of from time to time)

The point he was making is how can you think of yourself as being so helpless or less fortunate than others when you have the same blood line of the creator.

Maybe I'm easily led? but I couldn't help but think, yeah he's right. I am powerful because God made ME.

So when the going gets tough, honey, the tough get going.

I think as mothers we've all felt less than perfect more than once, I know I have but you have to take the bull by the horns. Literally.

Don't let your life run you, you run your life. Wake those babies up early, feed on a schedule (breakfast 7 am, lunch 11, snack at 2:30 and dinner 5:00, let 'em have free time til 7:00, watch t.v for an hour, bath time at 8:00 and bed immediately after.

Or similiar.

After a week, you'll think you've died and went to heaven!!! Trust me, it works to have a schedule.

And as far as the car goes ...

1. You could hold your foot down and get what you want.


2. You can let him have his way and later on, if there are problems, you can always say "I told ya so".

I'd stick with option 1 just because I can but sometimes men need to be taught a lesson, in which case option 2 sounds really tempting.

I can't wait to see what's happening but hold your head up high and keep the faith. It sounds like it's all coming to a head so it can't get MUCH worse. :)

I totally understand, been there A LOT! LoL


Crystal said...

I'm so sorry to hear you are having a hard time right now. I know what you're going through. It will all start looking better soon. This is just a rough spot on the road of life. It will be over before you know it. There is always a rainbow after the rain.